Reflections From a Country Girl

I love eggs and hashbrowns.  The place I enjoy these the most is Waffle House.  They make scattered, smothered, covered hashbrowns and cook the eggs just right for my taste. 

I figure we can learn a great deal from Waffle House when it comes to relationships.   Ponder these…

They are always friendly and fun

They want to make it right

They are there for you 24 hours a day

They will scatter, smother, or cover …  you just have to know what you want

They will fry, scramble, over easy … you name it

Just like Waffle House, a relationship should have lots of friendly, fun times.  When and if it ever gets to the point where it is not fun anymore, then there is some serious stuff going on that needs to be dealt with.  We all know it’s never good to not deal with issues that arise.  Ignoring them only makes matters worse.  

Just like Waffle House, one should want to make it right…especially if there have been some issues that need to be resolved.   Yes, there may be disagreements and disappointments but, two people who care deeply about each other will do their best to resolve issues gracefully with each other – not put the issues aside without resolving them until they are spouted out in a totally unrelated situation during an angry moment.  

I love that Waffle House is open for business 24 hours a day.  The good thing about Waffle House is I can get breakfast at seven in the morning or at 12 at night. They are always there.  In personal relationships, it’s very important to be there for the other person 24 hours a day.  It doesn’t mean you have to neglect other responsibilities…it just means that you are committed to loving that person first and foremost and making sure that person knows you care unconditionally and will be there for them when they are in need of your support and love.

 

One of my favorite items at Waffle House is the hashbrowns.  You can get them most any way you want them…plain, scattered, smothered and/or covered.  Relationships can be a lot like that.  Sometimes a good ole plain relationship is a good place to be.  Other times relationships can be a combination of being scattered, smothered and covered up so people lose themselves in the moment…or in many moments when – instead of trying to resolve an issue – the focus is to be defensive….to feel you have been betrayed.  When a relationship gets this way it is not healthy for anyone…and it takes a great deal to make sure these little scattered, smothered and covered moments do not add up to be big permanent ones.

Finally, Waffle House makes the best eggs.  They fry them, scramble them, make them over easy, etc.  It occurred to me the other morning when I was having some of those eggs, over easy, that relationships fall in those categories as well.  Yes, a relationship can get all scrambled up where no one knows quite where they stand.  It can also fry quickly and, before we know it, can be almost cooked to a crisp and become unsalvageable.  

 

Then there is the relationship that is over easy where both partners are willing to get beyond being defensive and work together to resolve issues peacefully. That is the kind of relationship I want…one that can get beyond defensiveness and has a plan to deal with everything as effectively as possible…a place where both partners genuinely want to resolve differences because they love each other deeply.  

So what kind of relationship do you want?  One that is fried, scrambled, covered, smothered, scattered, or over easy? 

My wish for you today is that you are either in a relationship that is over easy most of the time or that can become that quickly with an honest conversation.  You deserve it and so does the love of your life. 

~ Joellen

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