Reflections From a Country Girl

This is Mother’s Day….2008.  It’s the first Mother’s Day without my mother.  She died in March after living a long and relatively happy life. 

I admit to being a bit sad that she is not here today.  After all, she was the best mother anyone could have.  

I was sitting in the doctor’s office yesterday for my checkup and was thumbing through a  magazine when I saw an article about someone who had distanced herself from her mother for three years before she died.  If her description of her relationship with her mother was true, she needed to do just that. 

It was sad, however, that she had not been able to have a decent relationship with her mother.  We all deserve that. 

In most cases, when I have dealt with troubled mother/child relationships in the past, I remind the child that the parent is doing the best she can do at the time.  

I was reminded in the article yesterday that there are some instances where a mother is not able to function as a parent effectively.  In those rare cases, it is better for the child not to have anything to do with the parent because it becomes a detriment to their well-being.  

My wish for you today is that you have a respectful relationship with your parents.  If at all possible, particularly remember your mother today…if it is just a call. You don’t have to do anything fancy or expensive to remind her you love her. Sometimes just letting her know you remember her is enough.  Life is just too short not to.  

~ Joellen

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