{"id":236,"date":"2007-04-12T10:56:40","date_gmt":"2007-04-12T10:56:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/reflectionsfromacountrygirl.com\/?p=236"},"modified":"2007-04-12T11:01:18","modified_gmt":"2007-04-12T11:01:18","slug":"dont-you-worry-bout-a-thing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/reflectionsfromacountrygirl.com\/?p=236","title":{"rendered":"Don’t You Worry Bout a Thing"},"content":{"rendered":"

Stevie Wonder is known for so many great songs. There is one I particularly like of his called – Don’t You Worry Bout a Thing<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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Worry…a small word with a BIG meaning.<\/p>\n

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It takes the best of us and can wear us down to a feeling of helplessness in the snap of a finger.<\/p>\n

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Some of us can talk ourselves out of this with relative ease and we’re back to our usual perky selves. Others of us take a real hit every time we worry – and we worry lots ’cause there are so many things in this world to worry about. It takes some of us awhile to get beyond that feeling.<\/p>\n

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Now, it doesn’t mean any of us are less good or bad for this. There are really many things to worry about in this life. In fact, it’s just a fact of life sometimes.<\/p>\n

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I have friends and loved ones that are wired to worry often. They are all people I care about deeply, so when I see or hear of them worrying, I do what I can to help. I can’t solve the issues for them, but I can support them through them while they work on getting to a better place.<\/p>\n

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So what if you are a worrier<\/strong>? Here are some thoughts about that and what you might consider.<\/p>\n

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1. Remember that being a worrier doesn’t mean that you are less loveable. Those who love you will do so regardless of your stage of worrying…so you make sure you surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you and are positive and uplifting. The WORSE thing you can do is to be alone and not have support. Now I don’t mean being married here but, if you are that’s great. That is, of course, if they are supportive. If you don’t have someone in your home, do like AA does and have a buddy you can call when you feel down. That will make ALL the difference in the world.<\/p>\n

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2. If you worry frequently, you may find that exercise will help. Try that out.<\/p>\n

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3. Treat yourself to a healthy diet. The more you do that, the better you can feel.<\/p>\n

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4. Talk with your doctor to make sure your anxiety is not being aggravated by something physical.<\/p>\n

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5. If your anxiety lasts longer than usual and you just can’t seem to shake it, consider finding a professional counselor or psychologist that can help you take a deeper look at that. It could be that you could benefit from regular talks and maybe simple medications that can help ease that feeling. I know many people who have been able to benefit from that kind of help and they say it’s the best thing they ever did for themselves.<\/p>\n

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Now, if you have a loved one that suffers from worry or anxiety<\/strong>, here are a few things to consider.<\/p>\n

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1. Make sure your loved one KNOWS you love them and that their worry will not make you think less of them. Hugs are tremendous helps as well as doing things like calling them at the office and singing (or speaking) a few encouraging words. Some of my favorites are things like – I love you, you are the sunshine of my life, my life is better because you are in it, I’m sure lucky to have you in my life, I can’t wait to see you…etc. I’m sure you have your own little sayings you could share. IF you are not prone to doing this, try it out. It will be well worth the time and energy.<\/p>\n

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2. Communicate – one of the worse things one can do when a loved one is having anxiety or worry is not to talk at all. That makes the other person feel even more so that something is wrong with them or that you don’t love them anymore. I know a few folks who are prone to worry and do not have a strong support system at home. It’s sad and can be down right dangerous for the relationship.<\/p>\n

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3. Communicate – Some of my friends have adjusted to not having support at home by finding others to talk with. That is usually a healthy alternative, but only if it is a person that is trusted. The BEST person to get support from is a spouse or loved one, if you have one, but sometimes that is not possible because of a variety of factors. If you find you have a spouse or significant other that is having anxiety or worry, the BEST thing to do is to support the loved one openly and lovingly. It can get complicated if your spouse has to seek other means of support JUST because you’ve forgotten (or maybe never knew) how to talk with each other. Don’t let that happen to you.<\/p>\n

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4. Communicate – If you have a good communication going on with an ailing spouse or significant other and it just does not seem to be enough, encourage the person to go to someone who is qualified to help sort through issues. Go with them if you can and they want you to. Show them that you love them that much and want them to find that peaceful place in their lives where they can be as happy as possible.<\/p>\n

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5. Love them through it. Period.<\/p>\n

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My wish for you today<\/strong> is that you never have to experience worry or anxiety. If you do, I hope you have someone there to support you through it. If you don’t, find someone…a friend, a counselor, another trained professional. You NEVER have to go it alone…and you “don’t have to worry bout a thing” forever. There is a place of peace in your heart and soul if you seek to find it and embrace it. Love yourself enough to find it.<\/p>\n

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~ Joellen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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